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COMMENT 6d ago

Surprise, I’m a guy and not once did I mention gender in this. There are a lot of people who are willing to shell out money on date nights with the sole intention of having sex in return, but at the same time they also demean sex work.

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COMMENT 6d ago

Did you even read this? Why does it have to be a chick? I never specified gender in this. This is geared for the person paying. If the person paying for a meal in hopes of having sex, it would be hypocritical for them to not support sex work.

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COMMENT 6d ago

At this point, you’re just haggling over the price. If someone paid for a date’s 5-star Michelin steak at a luxurious restaurant, the same reasoning would apply.

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COMMENT 6d ago

Yes but the title explicitly states that the sole intention in this situation is sex, not to be chivalrous.

r/unpopularopinion 6d ago

R3 - No reposts Its hypocritical to not support sex work if you pay for someones meal on a date with the sole intention to have sex

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r/unpopularopinion 14d ago

R3 - Megathread topic If you’re going to blame everything that goes wrong in society on the “patriarchy”, then you should also credit everything that goes right in society to it as well

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COMMENT 15d ago

Oh yeah? Tell that to half the people in r/relationship_advice 😂

r/unpopularopinion 15d ago

If you cheat on someone in a previous relationship, you don’t get to complain if you’re cheated on in the future. Its karma

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r/unpopularopinion May 17 '21

You should not be obligated to provide sources for an online argument. Most times, people ask for sources as a shitty way to derail the debate at hand.

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COMMENT May 14 '21

My father passed away when I was a teenager. I earned a full scholarship to college for sports. My mother had a brain tumor so I had to drop out and lose the scholarship. Life sucks, then you die.

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COMMENT May 13 '21

wait, really? lol

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COMMENT May 10 '21

Yeah I do too. I feel like theres no point in anything I do. Like what am I looking forward to? I work a job I don’t enjoy just to get a paycheck just to look forward to the weekends. And on the weekends I sit at home and drink while staring at a wall because theres nothing else to do. I’m just getting older and older and I can’t imagine living like this until I’m old or until I enter my 30s even.

I always think life would be more bearable if I was in a relationship because in a way it would give me something to look forward to and force myself to improve for them.

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COMMENT May 09 '21

Yes :’(

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COMMENT May 09 '21

Just 1: Happiness. That’s all I’ve ever wanted

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COMMENT May 09 '21

I agree! Just be a decent human being to one another

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COMMENT May 08 '21

I’m not proposing anything. I simply stated that people should treat others the way they would like to be treated. Everyone is different, but I have yet to hear that someone enjoys being ghosted or led on. I’m not shaming anyone and I’m pointing out the broad consequences that this has on society as a whole. I guess when you reject someone, reject them in a way that YOU would be okay with if the roles were reversed.

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COMMENT May 08 '21

A) I never used the word forced in this write-up. No one should be forced to do anything.

B) I’m advocating for people to treat others the way they would like to be treated. If they wouldn’t like being ghosted or led on, then they shouldn’t be ghosting or leading on others.

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COMMENT May 08 '21

I’m not saying at all that a person should be forced into a relationship, that would be disastrous. All I’m advocating for is to reject someone in a more straightforward manner rather than ghosting someone or stringing them along. The person being rejected should not be getting what they want.

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COMMENT May 08 '21

The problem isn’t with rejection, thats completely fine. The problem lies with how people aren’t straight forward with it which causes many others to overthink the situation without closure. If the roles were reversed, they wouldn’t like it happening to them either.

r/unpopularopinion May 08 '21

Saying you’re not entitled to a relationship is a shitty mindset to have

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COMMENT May 08 '21

You can’t fault OP for taking the rejection personally. Their feelings are valid and in relationships everythings going to be taken personally since feelings are the main objects at stake. If you genuinely fall for someone and continue to hope for the best for them until you find out they don’t hope for the best for you, you’d understandably be upset too if/when you’re rejected as well especially after being led on and used for emotional support.

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COMMENT May 08 '21

Its one thing to notice the red flags, but its another to accept them and cut contact off sadly

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COMMENT May 07 '21

Sad to see all the hate here. I think what this really boils down to is a lack of communication between both parties. Everyones quick to say that no one is entitled to any explanation or criticism which sure may be true, but what ever happened to human decency? What happened to treating others the same way you’d like to be treated? Would you enjoy constantly being treated as a second option? Would you enjoy someone giving you hope that feelings could change down the line when they know full well that they don’t plan on putting in the effort to try? In a time where infidelity, divorce, and the general breakdown of monogamous relationships is common, doesn’t that show that there is an overarching flaw in the way everyone communicates with one another and treats each other as disposable? It turns into a game where the person who cares the least wins which defeats the whole purpose of even attempting to develop a relationship with someone else. We’re quick to tell someone that they aren’t entitled to a relationship if they get ghosted or led on, but we’re never quick to address the lack of human decency in the act of ghosting or leading someone else on. Chances are, if the roles were reversed, they wouldn’t enjoy it happening to them either.

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COMMENT May 06 '21

Very insightful comment thank you. I guess everyone does have that one “it” factor that triggers their depression more than others. Relationships are definitely one for me, I feel like I’m often holding onto a string that depends on my relationship so when its going well I’m doing great, but when its in a rough state, I’m in a very dark place.

Its weird because I like to take an objective look at things and I’m a bit pessimistic/realistic because of my ongoing depression. But with relationships everything rational goes out the door so its like I end up hating myself even more when it fails because I didn’t listen to reason and ignored the signs.

I definitely had teenage heartbreaks and I took it rough. But I never grew out of it I guess and every heartbreak feels just as bad for me still at 26. I wish I was one of those people who could turn things down a notch but I guess we’re all different. My specialty seems to be navigating intense trauma in life, but when it comes to relationships, I’m the same as I always have been and probably will always be.

Totally agree with and want to address the external factors like bullying and abuse as well. I definitely don’t want to come across here as downplaying them because they are just as serious.

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COMMENT May 06 '21

That’s fair. I would consider myself emotionally unstable as well. But its kind of like a catch-22 in some regard. You crave affection and human interaction and hope it will heal your suffering even if it will put you further back when it fails in the long run. You place your partner on a pedestal that they could never fall off from. I do think that a good relationship could help a depressed person, but its a very difficult line to walk.