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COMMENT May 11 '21

UPDATE: Thank you all for your thoughtful questions and taking the time to discuss these important issues. If you'd like to learn more about TELL MY STORY, the film is available on Vimeo VOD and can be seen for free on WellBeings.org - https://wellbeings.org/films/tell-my-story/

Want to learn more about the film? Check out tellmystoryfilm.com

r/IAmA May 11 '21

I am Jason Reid, a parent, an entrepreneur, an author and youth mental health advocate. The documentary, Tell My Story, chronicles my search for answers in the months following my 14 year-old son’s suicide. Ask me anything.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Absolutely !

Social Emotional Learning should be required in every class room!

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Thank-you.

I believe you need to encourage them to reach out to friends, family find a therapist.

If it’s not healthy for you to live in the space. You need to take care of yourself first.

You need to put on your oxygen mask first.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Well since you are asking..

Kraft Macaroni and cheese. Ryan used to make it for me.

It’s my go to.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

I am so sorry.

I get how he likely feels. He probably feels guilty and mad and doesn’t know how to share his feelings.

Is he talking to a therapist? I never thought I would want to but am happy I do.

Maybe take him for a walk, let him know you love him and remind him that you are still here and you need him to still be your dad.

Hang in there, It will never be the same, but there is still joy in life. He needs to find it.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

I believe that we need to own out children’s mental health. The same way as we own their physical health.

We start the conversation about stomach aches when they are able to speak.

We need to talk about their feelings at the same time.

If we all grew up speaking freely about our mental health we would all be better off. At least that is what I believe.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Thanks for asking,

I have never suffered from depression or anxiety.

I do cry now, which I never used to.

I do have a therapist to talk to twice a week. I play guitar, work out and try to enjoy my days and weeks and family as much as I can.

I have thrown myself into work, almost 7 days a week, 10,12 hours a day. I work too much.

So the answer is complicated. My life changed and it wil never be the same.

I try to make the best of it.

We all do.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

I am struggling with how to answer this question.

Is he really in a better place? If you believe Heaven is a better place, then I guess so.

I believe he is there, I assume that his mental health is much better so he is thinking clearly now.

If I am right, I believe he likely regrets his decision. I want to believe that he would have been better off here, after he lived 90 plus years with his family.

I know my family would be better if he was here, I believe knowing what he knows now about the affects on all of us, he wishes things were different.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

I never asked Ryan anything about his mental health.

I would ask him superficially why he was sad or angry. I never really dug deeply into how he felt.

I never asked him if he was depressed or anxious. I wish I had done that I hope you have a chance to do just ask the questions that I did not.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Great question!

I never once asked Ryan anything about how he was feeling in terms of his mental health.

I never asked him how he felt, physically yes but I never asked if he ever got depressed, anxious. If he was sad or why he might be angry.

I wish I had. I hope you are able to have those conversations with your kids, family and friends.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Thanks for asking.

Here is a link to the movie. It is playing on this site for free for another 45 days or so.

https://wellbeings.org/films/tell-my-story/

I suggest watching it with your family and having a conversation afterwards.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Personally, I don’t have an issue with home schooling as long as the kids socialize with others and are not “shut ins”

I am not familiar with Musk’s school. Sorry

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COMMENT May 11 '21

The interesting thing that I have found is that if kids or adults feel that they can share and not be judged or that you will try to fix them, they are more willing to share and be open.

They need to feel safe and not judged.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Find what you love to do and do more of it. Drawing, painting, music, running, walking etc.

Life is better when you have something to enjoy and look forward to.

Something that you can do outside of school, work, family. Something you can escape to.

Personal development is a personal thing. You need to figure out what you want to do and then chase down the best way to learn. The internet can bring anything you want to you.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

I wish I could tell you exactly how to understand the difference. My oldest was really moody. Ryan was the least moody of all my kids. He hid it.

The only way to know is to have the open conversations about mental health. Their mental health and if you are worried, ask them if they have thought of hurting themselves and if they say yes ask them if they have a plan? If they can articulate that plan take them to the hospital or too a therapist. If they don’t have a plan, get them to a therapist and continue checking in. Many many people think about the thought of suicide and never take action.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Thanks. I've included the proof in my post.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

Not sure I have an opinion. Should I?

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COMMENT May 11 '21

The seven words that Dr. Ghoulston shares in the movie is a really good start to get people to talk about their feelings.

Sharing first about how you are feeling can also start the conversation.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

If you go to my GoalCast talk. I talk about being more vulnerable. I wish I can tell that it’s easy. I think you just have to start the conversation. It gets easier the more you talk about it.

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COMMENT May 11 '21

I wish I could tell you that it helped. The reality is that it did not. I would rather try to not talk about the topic. But that would not be best for anyone and Ryan would have died in vain.

r/IAmA May 11 '21

Other I am Jason Reid, a parent, an entrepreneur, an author and youth mental health advocate. The documentary, Tell My Story, chronicles my search for answers in the months following my 14 year-old son’s suicide. Ask me anything.

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