When people get hurt from being ghosted or led on, I’ve noticed a lot of people use the phrase, “Well you’re not entitled to a relationship with that person so get over it.” While that may be true, whatever happened to the belief that one should “Treat others the way you would like to be treated?” Chances are that the person ghosting or leading another person along wouldn’t like it either if the roles were swapped. We’re quick to tell someone they’re not entitled to a relationship, but slow to acknowledge that leading a person along as well as ghosting lack human decency to one another.
We’re in a society where divorce, infidelity, and the general abandonment of monogamous relationships as a whole is high. Doesn’t this show that the way we communicate to one another is problematic and should be changed? People continue to dehumanize each other through their actions and validate them by saying no one is entitled to anything. The person who cares the least often “wins” because they end up not being hurt. If you’re haphazardly entering a relationship just to cut things off in such a dehumanizing way, whats the point of even attempting? Its causing a ripple effect that creates a more callous population who lack communication skills when conveying emotion because the person on the receiving end will make sure not to put their best foot forward in future relationship efforts again.
I genuinely believe that if you want to develop a lasting relationship, you should treat them with the same dignity that you would like to be treated with. Sure you may not be entitled to a relationship with anyone, but you should be entitled to decent human courtesy when pursuing one as well as when ending one.
Edit: This is for ghosting/leading people one. This isn’t saying that anyones entitled to sex. Its perfectly fine to end a relationship, just dont be shitty about it and think about how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot