r/ForeverAlone Apr 16 '21

Is there a point in trying after 30? Advice Wanted

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u/ag3on Apr 16 '21

Tldr ; Im 34,nop.

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u/Silane85 Apr 16 '21

I got my first girlfriend at age 30, we've been together 4 years. Unlike you, I have poor genetics (I'm 5'1) and financially average.

I don't think you should have a requirement that everything needs to be 50/50 and they need to earn a similar income. Income isn't really proportional to work ethic, and as long as she works and contributes proportional to her income, then that's fine imo. For example, maybe she's a teacher because she has a passion for helping kids, and sacrificed her own finances in order to pursue that. I find that admirable, and far better than someone who is a trust fund kid or a rich instagram influencer.

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u/Lnnam Apr 16 '21

If you are unable to find a 30 yo woman who is self sufficient and is on par with you in terms of success, then you are aiming extremely low.

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u/yrmjy 50kg aspie ex-FA with lingering issues Apr 16 '21

Well, the ones I meet on dating apps or in meetups are generally in low-level jobs or unemployed. Most people in general I know my age don't really have a career

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u/voxeldesert Apr 16 '21

I don’t understand this fear that someone is settling for you. If you find someone who loves you later in life he/she still loves you. And why the hell is the income so important for you. More is good but I‘d rather hope she’s happy with it and it’s something interesting.

All in all over 30 you still won’t be the hottest catch but I would not dismiss all chances just because you are older.

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u/VTOLfreak Apr 16 '21

I know. Doesn't make it suck any less.

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u/Board_Gaming Apr 16 '21

That's not true.